Of the myriad of responses I receive to opinions expressed
in my weekly column, which now number about 250 over more than four years, the
most frequent coming from those who disagree is the tired, old refrain, “love
it or leave it.”
Actually, that’s not completely true. Those are the most
frequent criticisms from people who have the courage to include their name.
Many responses, especially the most negative, are sent anonymously. One such
critic recently emailed me to tell me how lame my opinions are. I thought the
definition of lameness might well include criticisms offered anonymously.
But the old “love it or leave it” refrain comes my way
often.
One reader told me that if I want to criticize Wyoming, I
should just pack up and head to “liberal-loving California.” A recent letter
was more inviting. It said I could “move to any of the other 49 states without
even having to apply for a green card.”
“Wyoming. Love it or leave it.” In other words, get with the
program. This is Wyoming. This is our “home on the range, where never is heard
a discouraging word and the skies are not cloudy all day.”
Where have we heard that before? Oh yeah. I remember. It was
during the Vietnam War. Thousands of our best young men were dying needlessly
and without purpose in the jungles of Southeast Asia. Hundreds of thousands of
Americans protested. They were told, “This is America. Love it or leave it.”
In a Huffington
Post story of a pastor introducing GOP Presidential candidate Rick Santorum and
inviting those who don’t love a Christians-only nation to leave, writer Michael
Sigman said, “ The origin of ‘America Love It or Leave It’ is murky. It was
popularized by gossip guru and Joseph McCarthy sympathizer Walter Winchell, who, among other abuses of power, helped keep entertainer, activist,
and national treasure Josephine Baker out of the country we're all free to
love.”
Ernest Tubb,
the Texas Troubadour, sang a country song advising those who opposed to war
where they could take their anti-war sentiments.
“It's kinda
hard to understand when you read about a man
That's talkin'
'bout love and knockin' the place he was born;
If things don't
go their way, they could always move away;
That's what
democracy means anyway.
It's America,
love it or leave it.”
That slogan
became the rallying cry of the pro-war crowd, which became smaller every week
as the Pentagon announced the latest body-bag count. The slogan incited
violence against Americans using their First Amendment rights protesting the
war. Within a week of the killing of four student protesters at Kent State,
hundreds of New York construction workers waded into a crowd of protesters brandishing
clubs and shouting, “American, love it or leave it.”
It seemed odd
to me even then that those who supported the war in Vietnam, claiming soldiers
were dying for our rights, were killing and maiming those who were exercising
perhaps the most precious of those rights.
The other
pronounced criticism I receive when calling out those in Wyoming who support
discrimination is that I have ignored the progress we’ve made. Interestingly,
those who feel progress is a substitute for moving immediately to
non-discrimination are generally older, Christian, heterosexual males with thin,
pink skin. They are the ones who make certain the “progress” is glacial. And
they like it that way.
So, if you
think differently and are willing to express your views and sign your name to
the opinion, you can’t be “one of us.” The implication is that there is nothing
that needs changing in Wyoming, all is well. Opened eyes and minds know better.
Maybe I missed
something in ninth grade civics, but it seems to me a democracy provides a
place to both love it and criticize it. Lands where criticism is not allowed
are not democracies. “Wyoming. Love it
or leave it?” It’s easier for me to imagine slogans like, “North Korea, love it
or leave it.”
One learns little by talking with or being around those who agree on everything. By being with or around someone who sees or understands things differently our ideas are challenged and stretched and we learn and grow. Only then can we also learn to value others and develop a respect for other opinions.
ReplyDeleteOne of the sad aspects of life in Wyoming is that so many good people are driven away by that "Love it or leave it" attitude. It's not just young people. I know a number of Baby Boomers retiring next door to Colorado to be around more accommodating policies and people but close enough to visit old friends in Wyoming. Sad, but understandable. P.S.: Don't leave!
ReplyDeleteWhat makes life bearable here :) is being able to tweak the righties at least once a week. I'd never leave that!
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