There’s an art to making a sincere apology. Most are not
very good at it. Clueless politicians and disingenuous corporations find
themselves in more trouble, making a clumsy attempt saying something like, “I’m
sorry if you were offended by my offensive behavior.”
Tom Burman could teach them what a genuine apology sounds
like.
Tom Burman was a three-year-old when football coach Lloyd
Eaton created a stain on Wyoming that lasted half a century. That stain was
ignored for nearly four decades before Tom became UW’s Athletic Director in
2006.
Tom was vaguely aware of the Black 14 incident but not many
of the underlying facts. He listened to those who had been around in 1969. Some
were uncomfortable with what Eaton did to those 14 young men so long ago.
In a brief interview Burman granted me last week, he said he
started thinking about what it must have been like for those black kids. The
60s were intense. Civil rights protests blazed across the country. These
student athletes were rightly concerned about the racially-discriminatory
policies of the Mormon church.
Indeed, Mormons were concerned enough themselves that those
policies were reformed a few years after these 14 lost their college careers
for raising the subject to their authoritarian coach.
For merely asking to be heard, they were kicked off the
team, losing scholarships and other opportunities while being ridiculed by teammates,
much of the UW fan base, and many of Wyoming’s political leaders.
The more UW’s new AD learned, the more convicted he became.
The University had to make it right.
In 2016, Tom learned the University of Central Florida was
hosting these former Wyoming football players in a ceremony honoring civil
rights heroes. He traveled to Florida to meet them. Nearly half of the 14
attended the ceremony and were pleasantly surprised that someone from UW had made
the trip.
On the long flight home, Tom made up his mind. UW needed to
re-establish a relationship with the Black 14. Tom started making regular
contact with them. It wasn’t long before there were monthly conference calls
and frank conversations. The University had a lot of work to do to establish
trust between the school and these men. Tom Burman was determined to make that
happen.
And he did. Gradually. Mel Hamilton, Tony McGee, and John
Griffin were among the first to come to believe the AD’s sincerity. Their
confidence caused others to believe. They were invited to a 2018 basketball
game at the Arena Auditorium. Well-founded concerns about whether Wyoming folks
would welcome them quickly disappeared when the crowd gave them a standing
ovation as they stood courtside. That opened the door to what happened this
month.
The surviving members of the Black 14 spent several days on
campus. They held a panel discussion, visited classrooms teaching young
students about their history, a plaque honoring them was unveiled, and they
were celebrated during halftime at the UW-Idaho game.
It was a Friday night dinner where Burman read an apology
that should be archived alongside some of the most important papers in the
history of the Equality State.
Standing before most of the surviving members of the Black
14, Burman read a letter signed by him and former UW president Laurie Nichols.
They called the story of the 1969 incident “heart-wrenching,” and spoke of how
important it is that UW reflect on it. Burman acknowledged these young men had
been deprived of a college experience that should have been “one of the best of
a young person’s life.”
Burman applauded them for “rising above” what happened to
lead productive lives, while remaining “faithful to your convictions.”
Burman asked, “Please accept this sincere apology from the University
of Wyoming for the unfair way you were treated and for the hardships that
treatment caused you.”
The moment gave meaning to UW’s slogan, “What the world
needs is more Cowboys.” What the world really needs is more Cowboys like Tom
Burman and the members of the legendary Black 14.